The Things People Say

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If you follow my blog at all, or if you take a little look around you will notice that things are a little bit of a mess.  I need one of those giant “Excuse our Mess” signs.  I’m having my site redesigned and doing a little organizing to make it a much more fun experience for all of us… as well as taking a little time to balance out my family life and my blogging life.  You can still find me blogging deals and bargains on the Lawrence Journal World at Shop Talk with Jenn and Julie.

Which leads me to today’s post.  Even though I’ve not been using this as a viable blogging option, I’m happy to have the format in this instance.

I’ve found that the difference between blogging here and blogging in a public forum like the Lawrence Journal World is that here people seem to understand each other.  We understand how this works: sharing deals and ideas, writing about the things that are important to us and all with a modicum of respect and understanding of each other’s differences.  There, I find that anonymity leads to not only bad manners, but blatantly vile behavior.

Last week was a particularly difficult week at Shop Talk.  I was called names, I was told that as a woman, I was making the “real working women” look bad and making their lives harder.  I discovered that one of the nasty “anonymous” posters is a friend.

What got under my skin the most was, however, being accused of plagiarism.  It was a ludicrous accusation: first I was told that I cut and paste, then I was accused of copying an entire post from Crystal at Money Saving Mom.  The post was cited and I was told to “beware” as the poster would continue to call me out on “these behaviors”.

Blogging is a huge universe.  It is also a close knit society.  Many of the women who blog about coupons and deals I refer to as “friend”.  Some of them I’ve had a play date with.  Even more than that are the women I’ve met at conferences and shared meals and drinks with.  I respect them all.  I would never splog from them.

Many blogs are on mailing lists with large companies.  We get notifications on coupons and upcoming deals. We are members of affiliate programs that send out emails to notify us of deals.  We all get basically the same information.  You will notice that the majority of the information you find is not unique to one blog or another.  You will find the odd blogger, like Jaycie at Coupon Geek, or Keri Lyn at She Saved, who look high and low for a unique deal.  But basically, they are all the same.  The difference is that we all write to different audiences.  I will try, but I’m not sure there are THAT many unique and creative ways to announce that Body Wash is on sale.

There I’ve said it.  I don’t plagiarise.  I couldn’t if I tried, my mom’s an English teacher.

And that post of Crystal’s that was cited last week by an “anonymous” poster on Shop Talk?  The one I supposedly copied word for word?  It wasn’t even for a store that we have in Lawrence.

11 Comments

  1. They say when you get anonymous hate comments you have hit big time Jenn…Should I congratulate? No no matter what no one deserves that, I am sorry you went through that and hope you are ok…I have missed you…we miss each other on twitter and have not seen you update your blog.

    I hope all is well and things get going in a good direction!

    XOXO, Trish

  2. I am glad you got that off your chest. Have a great time and don’t think about us. You can start back up bigger than ever when you return.

  3. It never ceases to amaze me what people will post under anonymous. I have felt for you on some of the posts during the last week. Please know that so MANY appreciate your hard work on ljworld. Thanks for taking a hit and know that those anonymous posters are quick to post but they are certainly not the majority of people following your posts. I agree that your popularity has grown! I am not sure what makes hateful people post but know that you are appreciated!

  4. Jenn, I have been following your posts on LJWorld for the past few months and thank you so very much for helping me get into using coupons! Last week I was also shocked by the comments some of those “real women” were leaving. If you have read any other comment sections on that site you see that there is a rude or ridiculous comment for even the saddest situations. As a “real woman” and mother trying to save where I can, I appreciate the blog on LJWorld and now have this blog bookmarked. Have a wonderful trip and I look forward to hearing about more great deals when you get back.

  5. Jen, thanks for the kind words! I realize its only a handful of people but they sure do make a lot of noise, don’t they?! I’m so glad that you find the posts useful. Be sure to let me know if there is anything I can help with or any specific deals you are looking for!

  6. Mikayla, I’m glad to hear from people who like the blog. It is such a different setting than a typical deal blog. I’m glad to hear that you are getting into coupons! Watch out…apparently its a little addictive :)

  7. I love your info. and appreciate your guts to post it in ljworld very much!

  8. I hadn’t seen the ljworld blog but went to check it out after reading this, and I have to say the comments there and on the ljworld website in general are disappointing to say the least. I love living in Lawrence mostly due to it’s feeling of community. Its upsetting that people can be so kind walking around downtown, but put a computer between them and you and its a war of words. I don’t have any unkind words about what what said but I will say for every mean spirited comment you read online there are hundreds more people who are only supportive. The mean comments sometimes seem the loudest, but they don’t represent a majority.

  9. Thank you for your kind words, Erin. I really appreciate it!

  10. WOW, I came across this post looking for something that I am writing. SHeshhhhhhh I had the blog world….i have been having problems. Dont even mention the accuser they just want attention half the time

  11. WOW! Sorry to hear that Jenn! I love reading what you write and I know you are not at all anything you were accused of being! Keep your chin high and your smile on your face.

    PS…LOVE the new layout! It’s very clean and organized looking! Very easy to navigate!!

    Christy

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